Positivity, Teens have?

Life is about staying happy. Happiness is one thing that keeps us going. But do we always stay happy? There are times when people often get problems especially teens. They get sad, depressed and leave hopes. But friends, always remember staying positive brings in a new lease of life. Thinking positive boosts our self esteem and also self confidence. Thinking negatively can have a negative effect on the brain as well as the entire body. Positive thinking changes our attitude towards the problem and we can easily solve the problem. Negativity brings down our self confidence and pushes us towards giving up. Giving up can put you into deeper problems. Instead of decreasing the problem it'll the increase the difficulties. Staying positive always will keep you happy even during difficult times and will help you enjoy the moment you are living in. Staying positive will also reduce stress and tension. Teens, stay positive stay happy. :)

Teens and lies

Why do we lie? Reasons are enormous but usually it is to gain attention or to safeguard yourself or to protect the truth. We teen's need to understand that lying can be serious. If the lie is for our needs then we need to understand that we need to prove ourselves that we are capable and fulfill our needs. If the lie is for protection of others for example during exams we see our friends copying and when the teacher questions us we say no, this way we are only spoiling our friends and helping them in reducing their talents. We need to always speak the truth when it comes to matters of love. We should not cheat anyone by lying to them , though you may receive fun and pleasure out of it the opposite person's life could be spoilt. One lie can save a friendship for only some period of time till the truth is known but one truth builds the friendship if you are forgived and always truth is better if you are forgiven or not. Lying to right the wrong can be accepted , even deception specialists have accepted this but we must always make sure that our lie should not hurt others feeling. Hurt them with the truth but dont spoil them with your lies. So its always you who has to decide, whatever your doing truth always helps you if you are doing the right thing or if you are doing the right thing the wrong way or the wrong thing. We have to say infinite lies to cover one lie but one truth can save infinite lies from happening. 

Teens & Anger

Getting angry is common. Its every humans tendency to get angry. But is it the right time or the right place when u get angry? Teens have this problem very often. They don't think anything when they get angry and react very badly. They have many anger management issues. Due to sudden mood changes due to hormonal changes teens often get angry. Even on petty issues. Keeping a calm mind while in anger will make you feel better. It will also save you from further possible casualties. Anger can also lead to such a extent that it might take someone's life. Teens don't think when they are angry. Anger can make you loose your long term relationship, a best friend and also the respect that you have earned. Anger can change your life. Control your anger and you can control your life.

Self-esteem & Teens

Self-esteem means you really like yourself, both inside and out. It refers both to how you look and what you believe in. This is also called "positive" or "high" self-esteem. You feel good when you pass a test with flying colours, win a competition on which you have been working hard day and night or probably when you are appreciated by a group of people. But when someone makes you a laughing stock among the crowd you feel dumb or left out of the action. At that moment you start wishing if you could be someone else or have a changed look. Many types of questions start arising in your mind. This is the time you get de-motivated. This is "negative" or "low" self-esteem. For teenagers, dealing with physical changes and pressures can seem overwhelming. As their journey starts through puberty, criticism, academic, athletic, peer pressures, dating challenges, hormonal changes and a host of body concerns mixed with their own search for self cause many teens to struggle with self-esteem issues. This really becomes a major problem in teens. But there is nothing to worry. Teens can solve this problem in various ways such as

•  Focusing on experiences , not appearances- One should not judge another on their looks but look at their experience in any field. This will help one another build up their self –esteem. 
•  Taking responsibilities- Teens can develop their self-esteem by taking up responsibilities, work upon them and get appreciated by others. 
•  Developing your individuality- One should not live to make others happy indeed do thing which bring them happiness. Believing in oneself will definitely help the teens develop sef-esteem. 

So do your best, be happy and believe in yourself.

Attention Seeking Behaviour & Teens

Attention seeking behaviour in teens is very common. It is mostly in this age group where this type of behaviour is widespread. A child that wants attention will get it by some means. This is usually done in a positive way. They make some drawing or perform a play and seek attention but that’s not the case in teens. Most teens enjoy when they are the centre of attraction. It is exciting for the individual to have other people who are interested in them. For some teens this desire for attention can drive in using maladaptive behaviours but this does not help them in a long run. Attention seeking behaviour in teens can be dangerous due to many reasons. To name a few,

1. The individual may put his/her own health in danger for seeking attention. 
2. Teens engaging themselves in such type of behaviour find it difficult in developing lasting and meaningful relationships. 
3. This type of behaviour is going to have an impact on their academics also.

Teens tend to get into this type of behaviour when the individual is dealing with low-esteem, felling very lonely. The most common reason for teens doing this kind of behaviour is in order to make one feel like a very valuable person. It is rightly said that if one makes up his/her mind he/she can definitely succeed. Teens can overcome this type of behaviour by increasing their self esteem and developing emotional sobriety. They will be happy in their own skin and no longer feel a need to be the centre of attention.

"Mood swing" a Teen problem

Mood swing is an extreme change or rapid change in the mood of a person. Such mod swings are faced by us usually when we are bored or tired or sad. When such a thing happens we tend to become lazy and have no interest in doing anything. And some people also develop mood disorders by using DRUGS and incomplete self patterns. We must always keep our self esteem high. Scientifically it has been proved that when we get bored, we tend to do something crazy or something capricious and find it easy to solve problems and plan something. But sometimes mood swing can be disruptive. Usually depression is achieved when we have less friends, have more friends but when all of them ignore us and when your loved one cheats you or breaks up with you. At such times we must believe in ourselves and instead of going into depression we must make sure we take up the reason for depression as a challenge and prove the other person/people wrong. Never give up . Tell yourself You are no less than the others. When you experience a mood swing a positive or a negative one, try to eliminate it and express the divinity in you. 

Love,Commitment & Teens

When it comes to love , all that comes to our mind is loving people. But love is something very broad which has several meanings but not a perfect one. They say Love happens at first sight which is very true. Coming to school life all that we teenagers experience is infatuation,which is a kind of a beginner level of Love. And scientifically it is been proven that it is very hard for boys especially to accept commitment from a girl. If they make a promise to love you forever it so may happen that the promise would be broken soon by at least 90% of teens. This is because of one of the parts of the brain i.e the judgment center is not yet completely developed to make decisions. Anyways it is usually advised not to fall in love and experiment. Developing Love while you are still studying can make your life very miserable and little serious too. Sometimes you end up taking virulent things harming your health. Not only do your grades go low even you start losing the love of your parents gradually. But 1 out of 10 chances are there that everything goes in a positive way. If u want to become something great in your life. Save your love for that moment when you reach great heights because that is when is the perfect time for Love. "The essential ingredient of Love is TIMING!"